9 Things to Remember When Your Feelings Get Hurt
If you were a sensitive child chances are you are now a sensitive adult. Everyday events may affect you differently than someone who is less sensitive. Other people do not understand this many times and will tell you that you are just being "too sensitive". How we feel each day can have a powerful effect on our self-esteem. Maybe they are just being "too insensitive". To effectively cope in our world you must remember these things:
- Remember that what people say to you or about you is really about them and has nothing to do with you
- If someone says something to you that hurts your feelings tell them that you did not like how they spoke to you
- See if sometimes you are misunderstanding what someone else says to you
- Realize that many people talk just to have something to do and don’t even know they are being insensitive
- Stay away from people who have been hurtful to you in the past
- Spend time building you your self-esteem
- Focus on your own interests and beliefs and do not become involved with other people’s opinions
- Celebrate the fact that you are sensitive. You are most likely also a very creative person.
- Look for other people who are also sensitive and form friendships and alliances with them. They will understand how you feel and be better friends to you in the long run
Many people will tell you that you are being too thin-skinned and should just let insensitive comments roll off you “like water off a duck’s back”. But only you know how you feel and you will feel better if you acknowledge your emotions and feelings. We all have an emotional guidance system that lets us know at every moment how we are feeling. Look for situations where you feel good and avoid those that make you feel bad. You are a special, unique being that deserves to feel joy and happiness as much of the time as you possibly can.
You are why I live for... at -5/27/2008 09:47:00 AM
The show I yearned to watch when I saw it on ad. But it's damn exp to buy it, and I always watch show only once. I don't re-watch the shows I watched before. So it's really wasted to buy when it's exp.
Watched with dear dear till 3am plus.. cannot tahan went to sleep first.
We actually planned to watch it on sat morning n noon too. But noon time end up went shopping with my mum. Dear came along too, cuz dinner time going to ah-ma's place to celebrate my ah-ma's 85th bdae. went home ard 10 plus. continued to watch the series show @my place.
On sun, noon time continued to watch the show. But still can't finish watching. err, too tired and lazy. Then, went to westmall swensen's with dear. I ordered a main dish, but the waiter gave wrongly. Then,next moment he gave us a soup for the day, for complimentary. I wonder isit because my face so fierce that he ownself give us the complimentary before we want to complain? or it's the service so good that they auto give complimentary when they do wrong thing? haha...
At nite, went to my relative wedding.
Okay, it's Fullerton hotel. Everyone's says its a exp hotel. Cuz one table $1000 like tat. And it's 6 -star hotel. So you must be expecting something real great n special right.
Went in, it's a tall building, the ceiling is high. Then, the ballroom is at downstairs. Went to the cocktail session which starts at 7pm. And it's written that 730pm you can go into the ballroom to sit n wait . Usually 7plus u can go into the ballroom to sit, though we noe chinese dinner dun start early. But at least we will be sitting down to wait to start. But yest 8pm,den we are invited in to sit. Tat's bad, everyone squeeze outside and standing to wait to go in. Then, went in to the ballroom. Okay, it's really small. The food served was yucky. BAD. NO standard. I went to so many wedding before, and this is the most bad one. It's not like 6-star. It's the name that is exp. Alot of branded stuffs are like tat too.
The worst thing is ... The first dish they brought to our table, they told us, we will divide into small plates for you all. The center of the table is placed with flowers. It's not that it's wrong, but if you want served the dish individually , then do it in the kitchen lo. The serving is so small, it's so uneasy that we can't take ourselves. I went before to a wedding that is served individually, but it's nicely done and brought out nicely, presentable.
And the MC for the day is bad too.
Everything ended ard 11pm. waited for dear to send us back home. So sweet of him.
Photos will be uploaded soon.
LOvinG , tReAsuRing, CherIshIng You always
You are why I live for... at -5/26/2008 10:24:00 AM
Jasmine in Japanese Character.
It is pronounced "JAZUMIN"
My manager saw it and told me there is Jasmine in Japanese character. And he edited for me. This is the new one. BELOW.
ジャスミン
You are why I live for... at -5/16/2008 01:53:00 PM
It's too late to apologize
It's too late to regret
I know sometimes we know it is wrong to do this or to do that. But things don't go our way. In times, we tends to make the wrong move even knowing it's wrong. That's human.
BUT...
it's never too late to LEARN!
and
it's never too late to KEEP LEARNING!!!
You are why I live for... at -5/15/2008 12:53:00 PM
It's true that there's no direct, complete definition of love that satisfies everyone. It is not something that can be measured or directly put into words. It is too deep and complex a feeling to describe. However, whenever it manifests itself physically, love is often recognizable. All it takes is a careful eye to know if what you're feeling is true love or not.
If it's true love, it involves respect. You claim no sense of "ownership" of the other person. You do not own his or her time, mind, heart, and not even their things. If you are given these things, be glad and be thankful, but under no circumstances are you to assume that you can make decisions for the other person. Do not be offended if your lover has opinions different from your own. Respect your lover's privacy and individuality.
Loving is being open to change. People are dynamic - their personalities and interests constantly change. Sometimes, this change happens slowly, and sometimes it happens in a blink of an eye. Whatever the change is, and however long it takes, you have to accept it. Even if it means accepting that your lover no longer loves you.
True love can stand the test of time. Being with someone for a long period of time allows you to go through different emotions and periods with that person. If your heart has the strength to weather through these different experiences with your lover, then both you and the relationship will grow stronger.
Love isn't about winning. Sometimes, you have to let go of a fight. Whenever you "win" a fight with your lover, you don't actually win. Nobody wins. Love is about a partnership, not a contest of egos. Whenever you feel a fight coming, you have to weigh the consequences and ask yourself "Is this really important?"
Love doesn't mean that your lover has the responsibility to keep you happy and vice versa. The only person who has the responsibility to make you happy is yourself. While you and your lover can make each other "happier", you shouldn't be solely dependent on each other for happiness. The couples who end up being happy together are made up of individuals who were happy to begin with. Keeping yourself happy is a hard enough responsibility, don't make it harder for yourself by letting another person's happiness be your responsibility too.
Loving isn't about restricting the other's freedom. There's no reason for you to call your lover every five minutes to check if they're okay. There's also no reason for you to be selective about which friends he or she can go out with. If you're in an exclusive relationship, then the rules of the game dictate that you can only be intimate with your lover. However, this doesn't mean that you'll be the only person that he or she can come in contact with. Keep in mind that when people are caged, they will almost always try to break free.
You are why I live for... at -5/15/2008 09:00:00 AM
Weekend’s celebration
10th May(SAT): Dear’s cousin wedding
11th May(SUN): Mother’s day
16th May(FRI): Meet up with FYP mates
17th May(SAT): -Nil-
18th May(SUN): Mummy’s Birthday
24th May(SAT): Grandma’s Birthday
25th May(SUN): My cousin’s wedding
15th June(SUN): Father’s day
29th June(SUN): Dad’s Birthday
You are why I live for... at -5/12/2008 11:59:00 AM
It's been so long since I blog pictures..so ya I edited and collage them. So enjoy viewing=)
You are why I live for... at -5/11/2008 11:32:00 PM
You are why I live for... at -5/11/2008 11:22:00 PM
I know it's too late to say sorry alway.
It's too late to apologize
But I promised that the change to make, I am really willing to do it. FUlly, Truely, From my bottom of my heart n mind. Change for my good, for our own good, for own future. It's not a bad thing or hard thing to do. Thank you to have confidence in me, n believing me. I LOVE YOU.
Treasure and cherish you more and more.
You are why I live for... at -5/11/2008 09:52:00 PM
It's been so long since I blogged about you.
It's not that I have forgotten you this friend.
How are you my friend ?
How is it like in heaven? Everyone wonders.
Hope that you are living to the fullest in the other world.
Do you still remember everyone of our friends and families?
=)
20.10.06 till now... OMG... it's like so long already. Times passes by so quickly, till that I can't feel that you really leave us.
Just wanna wish you a happy 21st bdae !
You are why I live for... at -5/04/2008 12:41:00 PM