9 Things to Remember When Your Feelings Get Hurt

If you were a sensitive child chances are you are now a sensitive adult. Everyday events may affect you differently than someone who is less sensitive. Other people do not understand this many times and will tell you that you are just being "too sensitive". How we feel each day can have a powerful effect on our self-esteem. Maybe they are just being "too insensitive". To effectively cope in our world you must remember these things:

• Remember that what people say to you or about you is really about them and has nothing to do with you
• If someone says something to you that hurts your feelings tell them that you did not like how they spoke to you
• See if sometimes you are misunderstanding what someone else says to you
• Realize that many people talk just to have something to do and don’t even know they are being insensitive
• Stay away from people who have been hurtful to you in the past
• Spend time building you your self-esteem
• Focus on your own interests and beliefs and do not become involved with other people’s opinions
• Celebrate the fact that you are sensitive. You are most likely also a very creative person.
• Look for other people who are also sensitive and form friendships and alliances with them. They will understand how you feel and be better friends to you in the long run

Many people will tell you that you are being too thin-skinned and should just let insensitive comments roll off you “like water off a duck’s back”. But only you know how you feel and you will feel better if you acknowledge your emotions and feelings. We all have an emotional guidance system that lets us know at every moment how we are feeling. Look for situations where you feel good and avoid those that make you feel bad. You are a special, unique being that deserves to feel joy and happiness as much of the time as you possibly can.